Useless Post (you’ll either hate me or already thought the same thoughts so why bother reading?)

Posted On September 30, 2009

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A person from one of my homeschool groups sent this article and I thought I’d share it with you.  I don’t agree with absolutely everything he says but it pretty much sums up my overall feelings about homeschooling and responding to questions about Summer Vacation 2009 1051homeschooling.  If you have any curiosity about what we do it might be insightful to you.

And as long as I’m posting “responses” to questions, I have to indulge myself and post my favorites from a list called The Bitter Homeschooler’s Wishlist.  The rest really are bitter but some of these are either pretty funny or exactly what I’ve wanted to say to people who ask.


2 Learn what the words “socialize” and “socialization” mean, and use the one you really mean instead of mixing them up the way you do now. Socializing means hanging out with other people for fun. Socialization means having acquired the skills necessary to do so successfully and pleasantly. If you’re talking to me and my kids, that means that we do in fact go outside now and then to visit the other human beings on the planet, and you can sSummer Vacation 2009 1060afely assume that we’ve got a decent grasp of both concepts.  (Me: I have found that when pressed, most people don’t quite know what they mean about socialization.  It seems to be a trigger word but no one knows why).

24 Stop talking about all the great childhood memories my kids won’t get because they don’t go to school, unless you want me to start asking about all the not-so-great childhood memories you have because you went to school. (Me: Goes along with socialization.  I can’t remember much about my public school socialization that made me a better person.  Less secure?  Yes.  Better educated?  Nope.)

15 Stop asking, “But what about the Prom?” Even if the idea that my kid might not be able to indulge in a night of over-hyped, over-priced revelry was enough to break my heart, plenty of kids who do go to school don’t get to go to the Prom. For all you know, I’m one of them. I might still be bitter about it. So go be shallow sSummer Vacation 2009 1045omewhere else.

20 Stop saying that my kid is shy, outgoing, aggressive, anxious, quiet, boisterous, argumentative, pouty, fidgety, chatty, whiny, or loud because he’s homeschooled. It’s not fair that all the kids who go to school can be as annoying as they want to without being branded as representative of anything but childhood.


13 Stop assuming that because the word “home” is right there in “homeschool,” we never leave the house. We’re the ones who go to the amusement parks, museums, and zoos in the middle of the week and in the off-season and laugh at you because you have to go on weekends and holidays when it’s crowded and icky.Summer Vacation 2009 1054

14 Stop assuming that because the word “school” is right there in homeschool, we must sit around at a desk for six or eight hours every day, just like your kid does. Even if we’re into the “school” side of education — and many of us prefer a more organic approach — we can burn through a lot of material a lot more efficiently, because we don’t have to gear our lessons to the lowest common denominator.


12 If my kiSummer Vacation 2009 1042d’s only six and you ask me with a straight face how I can possibly teach him what he’d learn in school, please understand that you’re calling me an idiot. Don’t act shocked if I decide to respond in kind.

17 Stop saying, “Oh, I could never homeschool!” Even if you think it’s some kind of compliment, it sounds more like you’re horrified. One of these days, I won’t bother disagreeing with you any more.

18 If you can remember anything from chemistry or calculus class, you’re allowed to ask how we’ll teach these subjects to our kids. If you can’t, thank you for the reassurance that we couldn’t possibly do a worse job than your teachers did, and might even do a better one.Summer Vacation 2009 1044

19 Stop asking about how hard it must be to be my child’s teacher as well as her parent. I don’t see much difference between bossing my kid around academically and bossing him around the way I do about everything else.

11 Please stop questioning my competency and demanding to see my credentials. I didn’t have to complete a course in catering to successfully cook dinner for my Summer Vacation 2009 1059family; I don’t need a degree in teaching to educate my children. If spending at least twelve years in the kind of chew-it-up-and-spit-it-out educational facility we call public school left me with so little information in my memory banks that I can’t teach the basics of an elementary education to my nearest and dearest, maybe there’s a reason I’m so reluctant to send my child to school.  (Me: I have only had one person question my ability to teach.  I have taught college level, why would I not be qualified to teach elementary?)


I was recently accused of trying to convert everyone else to homeschooling.  I worry this post will be viewed in that vein.  If you tempted to accuse me of such, please read #17 above.  I don’t think everyone is cut out for homeschooling.  Socialization (for the mom) is a toughy.  If you aren’t homeschooling and don’t wonder daily if you should be, then you probably shouldn’t.   I think most people who disagree with my decision should definitely not do it because they probably wouldn’t be any good at it.

There you go.  If you weren’t planning to throw tomatoes at me before.  You probably are now.  That’s fine.  I love tomatoes.  I don’t mind a bit.


6 Responses to “Useless Post (you’ll either hate me or already thought the same thoughts so why bother reading?)”

  1. Meg

    For what it’s worth…I loved this post. 🙂

  2. Tara

    I get these comments and questions all the time. If people would just think for two seconds before they speak I would be thrilled!

  3. Mutti

    I love the post and you are doing a great job of homeschooling. I am impressed!

  4. Dana

    I love this post…. much truth there… I blog hopped over from another blog. You can find me at or our homeschooling blog – I’ve enjoyed my visit. Thanks -Dana ♥

    • Dana

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  5. jihane

    i agree with you!I hated school…I thought it made me less confident teachers disliked me and never thougth i was good at anything….
    However i dunno if homeschooling is the answer it’s a big leap in a whole different way…